Created: June 21, 2007
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1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We
all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white
lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them,
truth is truth — and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the
real deal.
2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How
often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes
because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on
the autism spectrum truely attend to the sensory input that surrounds
them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's
fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these
distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact,
people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to
discover the real person.4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of
course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly
passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many
"typical" people can say the same?5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If
you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you
know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism,
social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true
liking, interest and passion — not keeping up with the Joneses.6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How
often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of
colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are
often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory
than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of
course, this is not universally true — but in general, people with
autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their
typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names,
hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most
people do.8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who
was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I
didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic
people don't play games like these — and they assume that you won't
either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place
emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most
of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants
— he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush,
second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!10. People with Autism Open New Doors for Neurotypicals
For
some of us neurotypicals, having an autistic person in our lives has
had a profound positive impact on our perceptions, beliefs and
expectations. For me, at least, being the mom of a son on the autism
spectrum has released me from a lifetime of "should" — and offered me
a new world of "is."
hey angela,
after a few yearss of therapy for myself, including a couple of sessions with my husband, my therapist has determined that he has asperger's. the more i read, learn, and watch his behavior, the more i see it in him. i can't get him to go to the dr's because i've explained to him that asperger's is high functioning autism, and he seems satisfied with that. everything you've listed here is true of him.
we are separated, but share the same home. this happened before my therpist and i talked about it.
knowing somehow makes it's more difficult, and yet easier to understand him.
thanks for this blog. it helps.
meribeth
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